Embracing Authenticity: The Power of Feel

FEEL VENT ACCEPT & BE YOU

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FEEL

We are a generation of broken hearts yet smiling faces.

Once we set out to introspect our personal & professional lives, I see we have efficiently upskilled ourselves to curtain our feelings with a shroud of superficial smile.  A smile that notwithstanding creates a pseudo positive image of our social life but on grounds of actuality, it is a smile that we fail to feel effectively. A question here arises that do we allow ourselves to feel the frowns and fears of life? The way one reacts to something or anything that happens in its life certainly depends and varies person specific to its precedential experiences. But if you were to choose between a tussle of mind and emotions then what path would you follow? If for some mind would dominate their reaction, for others naturally emotions would. Two key aspects arise here that I feel goes unaddressed, firstly that we fail to incorporate both mind and emotions in our life and secondly when we fail, we conveniently withdraw from feeling and reacting to the ups and downs of life. This withdrawal results in polarisation to the extremities of playing either mindfully or emotionally. If we choose to back arguments with facts and mind, we fail to perform emotionally in moments that demand us to do so and for those who are emotionally risen, the suffering of every tiny jolt in the journey of life often offers a difficult time. Hence, I suggest that a serious attempt to maintain balance between the two shall widen the scope of experiences and training ourselves to explore the other extremity shall lessen the suffering associated with downs of life. 

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ACCEPT

Our social upbringing has been structured in such a way that we ignore the importance of acceptance! The nature of acceptance that I am here referring to ranges in magnitude from zero to infinity. If you ask acceptance of what? I would say acceptance of simply everything. I often observe people diverting their stream of thoughts or keeping themselves engaged to tide over the phase of downs in life but when frequent cycles of similar practices run, they lose the sensitivity to work upon them. In the first para too, I do not stress on prompting to vent the baggage of mind in front of every odd individual you meet, but in the process if you diffide from accepting that you are affected, if you do not address yourself that you need yourself and you resist from expressing or analysing the baggage, you miss that attempt where you could aid the inner you through introspection. Once you accept the situations in or around you, the ability to think sensibly and act in a required way gets way easier and all of this exercise is necessary because if you do not train your mind to accept and move ahead with life in uncertain conditions, you are underestimating the immense power the evolutionary process has gifted you. 

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VENT

In our childhood we would come home from school and sequentially tell every minute happening of the day to our parents with all the unnecessary details we could incorporate. Later when they would stop paying heed to it, we stopped expressing with an understanding that maybe we were not worth being heard. I see a reflection of that understanding in young minds where teens and sometimes even adults, while communicating, question themselves internally of whether they are being understood or not. The underlying question being that if we have managed to evolve from expressing through rock paintings to learning how to read and write and speak then why communication has built a market in the zone of skills that is not set default in our systems. It is so because we have not learned to vent ourselves genuinely the way we should. We speak walk talk smile grin and do everything keeping in mind of what the external stimuli demands, in the process we leave behind the most important identity of being – ‘US’. The mode of venting is not necessarily sharing things with some close person but it includes writing down the problems on a note pad, channelising the entropy to a productive direction and striving to attain normalcy. Suppose if you vent, and act upon a situation that has turned up today then in near but re if similar set of conditions arise you would better know what to do in order to deal with the situation. The power of venting is such that it can rescue you from repeated sufferings on same issues and can effectively get one out of the ‘concern cycle’.

In conclusion, "Feel, Vent, Accept & Be You" advocates for the importance of balancing emotions and rationality in our lives. Doing so underscores the value of acceptance, urging us to acknowledge our experiences, and emphasizes the power of venting as a means of self-expression and personal growth because ultimately authenticity and self-awareness are keys to navigate life's challenges with resilience and grace.

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Chitransh who belongs to the Himalayan ranges of Kumaon, is currently pursuing Honor's in Agriculture from the G. B. Pant University of Agriculture and Technology, Pantngar.

He is a budding writer who is not yet out of the cupboard and with his skills and talents he intends to make a meaningful contribution towards raising consciousness on 'Rational Wellness' in society.

This article is based on the challenges and learnings that he lifted from his life and he says that the learning process for him is still at pace.

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Publishing By:- Aryan Singh Chauhan